The High Rate Of Divorce In Nupe Kingdom And Possible Solution – Comrade Ahmad Mohammed (Ordinary Ahmad)

THE HIGH RATE OF DIVORCEE IN NUPE KINGDOM AND POSSIBLE SOLUTION

Marriage is the source of family and the family is the building block of societies in the world. It is also the backbone of socio-economic and political development. Its progress and maintenance signifies harmony, while crisis and divorce in the family always signals dangers and insecurity in the society.

Kin Nupe over the years, is a reserved cultural group, with heart pleasing attributes. The people are well mannered, principled and obedient to the core.
But it is very unfortunate that this act of divorce is attributed to us today.

Infidelity, lack of trust, Lack of God fearing and barrenness have been identified as some of the major factors contributing to the high rate of divorce in Nupe kingdom.

Today, most of our couples got married without pure knowledgeable/ understanding of living together as a couples.

I always said it to my female friends that Love is not enough, make sure you settle down with a man that has fear of God and have a better understanding.

It is observed that most Nupe couples are ignorant of their obligatory responsibilities as husband and wives.
Mutual respect could also be part of the reasons for divorce, parents should please instil moral values in their children’s..
Although, some of the causes could be finance and high expectations that could not be met, some of our Nupe ladies went into marriage with very high expectations while some of our men concealed their true economic status from women to gain acceptance.

most of ladies doesn’t really know what they want, our young ladies are after worldly affairs, already made guys and when things turn out other way round, some of our irresponsible men see it as an opportunity to get them down with just little token’s.

POSSIBLE SOLUTION

In those days, infidelity was a taboo but now, it is celebrated by our Nupe women and men just because of little money given to them by those men.

Firstly, Society should frown on infidelity regardless of who might be involved in the act because it’s a sin against God and man.

Secondly, I advice couples should ensure transparency in marriage and be honest in thier relationship with their spouses.

For a distance couple’s, I advised they should always possess good communication skills and love in other to tackle the challenges that could lead to infidelity/ divorce.

I also urged married couples to be contented with one another, practice what would promote their love and help them bond better.

Written By Comrade Ahmad Mohammed (Ordinary Ahmad)